Dear Dr. Cory:
People pick on me, but I don’t know why. What should I do? Please write back in your truly superb magazine. You are the most awesome doctor I have ever gotten advice from. Thank you!
A friend
Hawaii
Dear Hawaiian friend:
Thank you for your kind words! We are sorry to hear about others picking on you. Being picked on can make you feel really bad. Discuss what’s happening with your parents and teacher or school counselor if you haven’t already. Your family doctor or a professional therapist can also help you with how to handle these situations.
Sometimes people pick on others who are smarter or different from them because it makes them feel powerful or in control. But, if they just took the time to get to know that person, they may become friends!
Try not to show anger towards kids who are being mean to you. Standing up tall and walking away can work really well. Not getting a reaction from you takes away the fun for them. They may stop if they see that the teasing doesn’t bother you. If kids continue to be mean, try to talk with them. Be calm and firm but nice. It is hard to be mean to someone who is being nice. However, if you ever feel threatened or in danger, tell an adult right away.
Sometimes the best defense against being picked on is having a group of friends. Look for a club or group that does things you’re interested in. It’s a great way to find and make new friends!
If you have a children's health question, Dr. Cory would like to hear from you.
Disclaimer: The Ask Dr. Cory health information is for general educational purposes only. It is not intended to, and does not, provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. You should always consult your family doctor when you have medical questions or concerns about you or your family's health. If this is an emergency, call 911, or contact emergency services in your area.
